I posted last Wednesday that there are things in my life that I’m dealing with. Hurts and lies that I’ve come to accept as truth that really have no bearing on what’s happening in my life today. I’m also coming to realize that the standards that I’ve set for myself are just that: standards I’ve set for myself. No one else expects me to fulfill them. No one except for me. And some of these standards? They’re draining. They’re causing more stress than anything.
I’m tired of stressing myself out with these standards.
One of the bloggers I follow, Lisa-Jo at The Gypsy Mama, posted about finding social media balance the other day, a repost from last year, written after she spent two months (mostly) unplugged. She reminded me that while the connections made online can be awesome and encouraging, we should never neglect the connections we have in real life. And far too often, I find myself frustrated and annoyed by the connections here at home, the ones that should never feel slighted. All because I have a blog post, a review, a twitter party.
Don’t get me wrong. I love chatting with you guys! I love sharing my life here! But, as in all things, moderation is key. And as Lisa-Jo says, “…if you don’t have time for your basic bodily functions, girlfriend, you need to reevaluate.” I’m slowly learning where that balance lies for me. Whether that’s putting off a blog post until the morning because if I don’t go to bed right now, I know I won’t make any sense…or if it’s asking my husband to watch Abby so that I can chat it up at a Twitter party. I’m far from finding the right balance, and that may mean that I ignore the blog for far too long at times or that I end up hurting someone’s feelings here at home at others. But I’m working on it.
And you know what? I can already tell a difference in my attitude, in how I respond to Abby, and in my relationship to my husband. I also find that I’m more focused when I am online, whether on Facebook, Twitter, or the blog. This balance thing? It’s hard to find, but it’s so worth it.