Respect. It’s a simple enough word. One of the definitions I found for it is, “esteem for or a sense of the worth or excellence of a person, a personal quality or ability, or something considered as a manifestation of a personal quality or ability: I have great respect for her judgment.” (emphasis mine)
It’s a simple word, but I’ve recently found that I am awful at living it out the way I should.
This week has been long. Tiring. Draining. My husband had surgery Monday, and although it was a fairly simple, out-patient procedure, he’s been out of commission most of the week. He couldn’t drive, lift heavy things, and has generally needed to take it easy. My mother-in-law kept my youngest while my husband was in surgery, and my older three until the following night. I was so glad to have them all home! But.
Caring for four children, day in and day out, with no back-up support is hard. I couldn’t just hand the baby to my husband while I ran downstairs to do laundry, or got my shower. I couldn’t ask him to run to the store to grab that one thing (ok, more like ten things) I forgot. When the kids got hyper, Daddy couldn’t swing them around the room or roughhouse with them like he usually does to burn off the crazies.
Don’t misunderstand, I absolutely wanted my husband to rest fully and recuperate. In fact, we had a few “discussions” about him trying to do things that were still off-limits, that ended with me ordering him to keep resting! But after a week of him being unable to help the way he usually does, I realized how much I depend on his help, and how many little things he does throughout the days to help me.
So this post is about showing him the mad respect he deserves for not only going to work to provide for our family, but also being there for me in so many ways to relieve my stress and help keep our home running smoothly (well, as smoothly as it ever does!). Far to often, I take all the ways he helps for granted.
I also want to take a moment and give a shout-out to all of those parents who are doing this parenting thing solo. Huge, huge respect to you! I hope that you have people in your life who can be a sounding board, babysit while you go to the grocery store (or the coffee shop!), take the kids out while you clean the house, or just give you to time to recharge however you need too.