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Breastfeeding Blog Hop: Week 17 – Saying Yes to Now

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This post is part of the weekly breastfeeding blog hop, hosted by us, and co-hosted by Life as Wife, Mummy, and Nurse. This week’s topic is, “Weaning (or not)”

I’ve always thought I couldn’t be a tandem nurser.

When I got pregnant with my second child, my oldest was only a year old, and still breastfeeding a ton. I started experiencing a lot of light-headedness, and had several near fainting episodes, in addition to losing over 15 pounds during my first trimester. I could hardly function, so I weaned my first daughter at 15 months, even though neither of us was really ready. When my second daughter reached toddlerhood, I enforced a few nursing restrictions, and she gradually and gently weaned around 2. I got pregnant with my fourth while I was still nursing my third. Thrush also decided to pay me a visit, and my son loved to stay latched on forever. Nursing stopped being something that drew us close to each other, and instead left me wanting to scream with frustration. I weaned him at 2.5, a few months before my fourth was born.

Fast forward a few years. I’m currently expecting my fifth child. From the time I got pregnant, I knew I would “need” to wean Nehemiah, my fourth. I wasn’t sure exactly when, but decided sometime after his second birthday, and before the start of my third trimester would be good. We night-weaned, which took about a week, and was so much less traumatic than when I night-weaned my third! We cut back to one nursing session a day… The bedtime nursing session. But we were both still enjoying our quiet moments at the end of the day. If I needed to be away from the house at bedtime, Nehemiah went to sleep fine for my husband. He even sometimes fell asleep for me without nursing. He might go two or three days without nursing at all, but then nurse again for a few nights. But by the end of February, I just knew it was “time” if we were going to do this thing. He’s two. I’m almost at the end of my pregnancy. I can’t be a tandem nurser. Time to wean. Right?

I snapped pictures of our “last” nursing session. This one is my favorite. I cried every time I looked at it the next day.

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And then we went out of town. We were in a different place, and it was just so much easier to go ahead and let him nurse to sleep. Finally, I realized something. Our nursing relationship is working. I don’t feel frustrated when it’s time to nurse him to sleep. If he doesn’t go to sleep within a few minutes, I can tell him, “All done.” and he will peacefully unlatch, and just cuddle to sleep. He’s a lot more verbal than my other children have been, and so we’ve been talking about the fact that there is a baby in mommy’s tummy, that the baby is going to come out, and drink lots of momma’s milk, and that he and the baby will share. Now when it’s bed time he says, “Momma’s milk peease. I share wit da baby!” Melts. me. every. time.

So here I am 37 weeks pregnant and still breastfeeding my two year old. Right now the “plan” is to continue on throughout the pregnancy. When the baby gets here, we will talk about the fact that the baby needs lots of momma’s milk, because babies can’t eat other food, and that Nehemiah still gets momma’s milk at bedtime. And I am actually looking forward to them “sharing”! I don’t know what this will look like in reality. Maybe Nehemiah won’t be able to handle not having unlimited access, and we will have to wean at that point. But for now, I’m just enjoying the present. Saying yes to now. And choosing to believe that it’s okay to do so.

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Have you tandem nursed? Was it your plan all along, or did it just happen? I’d love to hear your experiences in the comments!

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Breastfeeding Blog Hop- Week 1: Goals for the New Year

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This post is part of the weekly breastfeeding blog hop, hosted by us, and co-hosted by Life as Wife, Mummy, and Nurse. This week’s topic is, “Breastfeeding Goals.”

Last year, I had three fairly simple goals. And I met two of them. The one that I didn’t meet was tandem nursing, and I’m totally okay with that. I actually did tandem nurse the girls a couple of times, but I found it awkward to nurse Abby after she had been weaned.

2013 is a brand new year, though, and with it comes new challenges. I only have one goal this year, but it’s a difficult goal to make (and to keep.)

My breastfeeding goal for 2013 is to continue being dairy-free and soy-free (and whatever else-free) for my nursling until she weans.

The holidays were probably the worst time to realize all that Lily is sensitive to, and I’ll admit that I wanted to cry at every family meal. It’s pretty upsetting when everyone is eating ham, turkey, rolls, sweet potato casserole, and banana pudding, and you’re limited to eating chicken that your husband baked for you, beans, and regular potato chips. But if that was the worst (though I doubt it), then bring on 2013!

While it has been hard, I have noticed that I feel better overall too. I have a feeling that I am more sensitive to dairy than I thought I was, and getting it out of my system has been great. It is also making me eat healthier (since soy is a common filler in processed foods). While it isn’t the way I prefer to eat, I do enjoy the benefits. I have a feeling that even when Lily can handle some of this, it won’t stay a permanent fixture in either of our diets.

So there you go. My one (major) goal for 2013. What do your goals look like for the coming year?

 

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Breastfeeding Blog Hop: Week 49 – The Gifts of Breastfeeding

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This post is part of the weekly breastfeeding blog hop, hosted by us, and co-hosted by Life as Wife, Mummy, and Nurse. This week’s topic is, “The Gifts of Breastfeeding.”

I hit my 3 months of breastfeeding Lily milestone in November in the middle of trying to figure out what on earth has been causing her tummy so much trouble. After lots of trial and error, we have finally figured out that Lily is just as allergic to soy as she is to dairy. Even the hint of it in a spice will cause her to spit up, have reflux, and lose precious sleep. Even soybean oil makes her tummy roll, and so it’s been a challenge finding things that I can eat.

With all of this trouble, formula has looked tempting. I wouldn’t have to worry about what I eat, and I would know for sure that Lily wouldn’t have to deal with her stomach hurting. But, no. I haven’t switched to formula. First of all, there’s the obscene cost of a dairy-free and soy-free formula. And my second reason? There are too many benefits, too many gifts of breastfeeding.

Lily at 2 weeks old, getting it straight from the tap at church

For one, there’s the sweet bonding time between me and my daughter. While you can most certainly bond while formula feeding, I don’t think it’s the same. Yesterday, I read an article that proved cells transfer between mom and baby while in the womb. It’s also possible that cells transfer from mom to baby while breastfeeding. You can’t get that with formula, no matter how hard you try.

I also love that my milk is specifically formulated for my daughter’s growth right now. Today. This very minute. Is she sick? More antibodies. Was she exposed to something while we were out? Immune system builders! Is she going through a growth spurt? More vitamins and minerals. It changes from day to day and even hour by hour. Beautiful.

Another great perk is that it’s easily transferable. I don’t pump much for my daughter because we aren’t separated much. When we go out, I try to grab my nursing cover, but that’s really it. No extra bottles or formula, and no worrying if baby won’t take it because it’s too cold. Seriously, folks, straight from the tap is the way to go. ;)

And finally, one of my favorite things about breastfeeding is that there are times when a woman can make more than enough for her baby and give some to another baby who needs it. Right now, I’m blessed to be one of those women. While I’ve had oversupply issues, sometimes it can be a good thing. And when I’m able to give some of my milk to a sweet baby boy who would otherwise be eating formula all the time and then hear that he gobbled it up, it makes me thankful that I can share my milk.

There are so many more benefits, so many more gifts. These are just a few of the reasons why I think breastfeeding is a blessing, and they are my favorites right now. I’m thankful that I’ve stuck with breastfeeding, through those rough first weeks, through several months of pregnancy, and through this rough time of finding out what I can and can’t eat while feeidng Lily. It really is worth it!

 

What are your favorite breastfeeding benefits? Share your thoughts and link up!

 

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