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Adventures in Potty Training

I am certainly not an expert on this topic. I am 80 percent or so through my first potty trainer. While I might not have tons of helpful advice,  if you are currently on this journey too let me say that I feel your pain!  Potty training is NOT for the faint of heart. If you are one of those moms that potty trained your kid in a week or less then more power to you, but for most of us that is not real life. We started this journey almost a year ago. Yes, you read that right, a year ago.

He had just gained a baby sister: Strike One.

We were not consistent: Strike Two.

He was almost, but not quite ready: Strike Three.

Three strikes you’re out?  Or maybe not. Many moms have told me he won’t go to college in diapers! I have learned a bit over the last year to say the least. I have learned that I will never have a clean bathroom, ever. I have learned that consistency is mandatory, despite the fact that three bathroom trips in one hour does not in fact mean you will achieve success. Nope, sometimes it merely means 5 minutes later you will have a puddle on the floor. I have also learned that hiding in my room to catch my breath just for a minute is often the key to calmly putting on yet another pair of undies, and another load of laundry.

My son has SPD (Sensory Processing Disorder) and there were times when it hindered our success. Some days he did great, and some days he was in never never “sensory land” and didn’t even register that he had peed. I tried many different methods. We found flip cloth trainers and I breathed a sigh of relief that we were no longer wasting money multiple times a day. If you think diapers are expensive, pull ups are twice the price! We were plugging along “great” until one day he started screaming. Every. Single. Time. It was shortly after he started school and I guess the transition, and their methods at school, were just more than he could process. It was incredibly frustrating, for both of us.

One weekend after school I declared war, on potty training and not my son, do not fear. We ditched the pull ups, grabbed a huge stack of undies and towels, and hunkered down at home. He ended up being sick the entirety of the next week. Honestly staying home and being consistent every day was what he needed. That and the time to be ready.

We are not 100 percent there but we have less accidents every day! I am finding that there is in fact light at the end of this tunnel. Hang in there Mama’s, you can do this!

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A Friday in the Nitty Gritty

It’s easy to hide behind the computer screen. Sometimes it’s easier to write what I think about than what I’m actually doing because, really, how often can I say that I’m a mom with two clingy kids two and under?

Really, it’s not all bad. At least that’s what I tell myself.

For example, this morning, just as I was drifting back off to sleep once Lily finally finished eating/nuzzling/comforting herself, Abby shot up. At 6 AM. My husband had just started the coffee pot, which meant that it would be at least 10 minutes before my liquid energy was ready. Thankfully, Lily was still asleep. Because she hasn’t slept well since she started teething this week. Unless she’s on Mama. Then she’s out.

I digress. I start cuddling with Abby in *my* chair. I’m cuddling her, loving on her, and also playing Candy Crush Saga on my phone. That game is addictive! Oh, I’m also busy commenting and liking pictures on Instagram. Because seeing what everyone else is up to makes me feel a bit better. My kids aren’t sick this week, that’s a win. Okay, I can’t eat that doughnut…dairy and soy…ooh! Green smoothie! Maybe I should make one of those in a bit… I’m just trying to avoid the “I’m so tired, Mama!!” whines. Because I can only handle so much of that.

Abby gets down and starts playing with blocks that have been out since, um, last week? Our floor is covered. Abby even took her books off of the shelves. At least she hasn’t ripped out another page…so far. I finally get up and grab coffee. My first cup. There will be at least 2 more. I try to drink all the coffee that my husband leaves these days. I know water is better, but coffee tastes so good…

I also grab a no-bake cookie from the fridge. There were 2 cups of sugar in the batter. But it’s SO good…natural peanut butter (soy free), cocoa powder…oatmeal, olive oil…mmm… I have already convinced myself that it’s totally an okay breakfast cookie. Right up there with my green smoothie. [lies...]

I hear Lily after a while and go get her from our room. At least she’s smiling. Seeing her smile puts me in a better mood. I even crack a smile!

But she’s hungry. (Duh, Mom!) And once Baby Sister is in my arms, Abby wants in on the cuddles too. So she climbs over the arm of the chair and squirms into my lap, kneeing me and Lily in the process. Lily is mostly content. Or was. Somehow, both girls end up on me. Again. Poor Lily can barely reach the goods. Abby is still squirming, trying to get comfortable because Lily’s legs are in her way. I put her down on the floor, hoping that she will calm down and play some of this out. And maybe Lily can finish eating.

And then just maybe I can drink my coffee?

Do your mornings look anything like mine? Maybe?

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Creative Dating

One of the things my husband and I have struggled with since becoming parents has been finding quiet time to reconnect. Some couples manage to swing a weekly date,  and yet sadly  I can count our time away without taking off my shoes. My oldest is three and we are just now beginning to get creative in “date” time as it has become obvious that traditional dates simply aren’t going to be a regular thing around here for awhile.

We started “Parent Date Night IN” after my daughter was born almost a year ago. We would put Aiden to bed and then make a special snack and pop in a movie while I nursed Emma Grace allowing her to snooze while we finished up the movie. It worked for awhile, okay it worked once. The next two or three attempts I went to bed shortly after the previews with a cranky baby. On to plan B, or was it C? Our latest attempt has been to sneak a date in during nap time. While our kids don’t currently nap at the same time juggling  Emma Grace during daylight hours is a much easier hurdle to manage.

Is this ideal? Maybe not, but it is what works for us right now. I know how important time alone together is for the health of our marriage, and we try to make a priority of it. Honestly though, it is hard with little ones. We can’t afford to pay a baby sitter and go out. Baby sitters make the big bucks these days. So we get creative, and have some fun along the way. This year for Valentines day we planned our “date” during naptime. I bought coke bottled in Mexico and all the things we needed to make homemade chocolate with lots of fun toppings! We had a great time, and let me just say the chocolate was AMAZING. You can find the recipe here.

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Now you want chocolate, you are welcome!  Creative Dating can be fun! We are going to try flavored popcorn next :)

 

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