I know we haven’t talked about cloth diapers lately around here. And we started out as a “cloth diaper” blog. Don’t worry, it’s still something Jeniffer and I are pretty passionate about, and we don’t plan on cloth diapers disappearing from this space altogether. We have widened our focus, but we aren’t done talking cloth!
One of the reasons we’ve been talking about cloth less is because we both have a desire to see this blog be a broader space. We want to focus less on cloth, and more on the nitty-gritty of motherhood in general, and the ways we as sisters can support each other. But…. there is another reason, at least for me. When I started cloth diapering, I did it to save money. But I quickly went from doing it to save money to pretty much thinking it was the best thing since sliced bread. Cloth diapers are cheap! Cloth diapers are adorable! Basically, cloth diapers are awesome! And that led me to thinking, “Everyone should cloth diaper! There really aren’t any good reasons not too. And if you won’t try it out, don’t stick with it, or don’t do it full-time, you might just be a wimp.” Hey, I’m not proud of this, but I’m just trying to keep it real. It was my mission to convince everyone they should cloth diaper. It worked with Jen I also had some friends from college catch on to the cloth diapering love from Facebook pictures and statuses, and I was glad to be able to share with them about the amazing world of cloth diapers.
I cloth diapered full-time. None of this part-time business! That was for people less dedicated than me! I made cloth diapers work with a toddler and a newborn – twice! I cloth diapered at night. I cloth diapered on trips. I sent cloth diapers to church, even back when all I had were flats and covers. The only time I caved and bought disposables was if one of my kids got a really bad stomach bug, or if I was really sick myself. I. was. hard. core.
But over the last year, something has happened. It started when my dryer broke. I was having to line dry all my cloth diapers, indoors. Which took forever. I also added “getting ready to move overseas” to my list of responsibilities. Life slowly shifted, and I went through a season where I really did not love my cloth diapers. Thankfully, over time, with lots of breaks, I fell back in love. There is nothing quite so cute as a cloth diapered bum sticking out of a pair of jeans! But….
…I also figured out that my 2 year old sleeps a whole lot better at night in a disposable than he does in cloth. It doesn’t matter which of my “stay-dry” diapers I use at nighttime, he wakes up fussy about being wet. That doesn’t happen in a disposable. Here’s the thing…. I’m a big fan of sleep, especially when I’m pregnant! All of that led to using disposables consistently at night. Something I used to really shake my head at other people for doing.
We are also on the go a lot more right now. I have taken cloth diapers on many trips. But the truth is, it really is easier to just take disposables. They take up less space when we are leaving, and I’m not lugging back 3 days worth of dirty diapers on the return trip.
I’ve taken cloth diapers to church with us for years. For a long time, I’ve even been bringing my easy, aplix pocket diapers, that go on and off just like a disposable. But I still have to explain the cloth diaper situation every single time I drop my son off, and people always get the deer in the headlights look, and frequently seem confused about what to do. Since we aren’t cloth diapering exclusively anyways, most of the time I send disposables to church now.
I’ve gone from a hard core, full-time, exclusively cloth diapering
snob activist to being a part-time cloth diapering mom. I love my cloth diapers, but we only use them about 70% of the time. Like so many areas of my parenting, I’ve eaten a good share of humble pie over this past year, and realized that whether I use cloth diapers full-time, part-time, or no-time does not determine whether I am “mom enough.”