Archive | June, 2012

Making Room for Lily

I’m 35 weeks pregnant now. If all goes well, I should have at least 5 more weeks to go. Currently, we have a couple of outfits that people have given us, a newborn stash of cloth diapers from Melissa, and several review products for newborns and new moms. That’s pretty much all that what we have prepared for Lily’s arrival. So far.

Abby has gone through several adjustments, too. She was night-weaned fairly early on in the pregnancy because I needed sleep. Desperately. Then I officially weaned her one day after Le Leche League because I couldn’t handle the long nursing session and she couldn’t handle me stopping it. She hasn’t nursed since.

There’s one place, though, where Abby hasn’t given Lily room yet. Our bed.

We usually co-sleep for at least part of the night or early morning. It’s rare for Abby to sleep on her floor bed all night long. If she’s sick, she tends to be in our bed for most or all of the night, which can make some hard nights for this pregnant mama. Thankfully, my husband get up to help her fall back to sleep in her own bed when he can. Because once she comes into our bed, it’s cuddle-with-Mama time.

Now, when Lily comes, she will be in the bassinet we used with Abby for at least the first few months. We may try using the crib beside the bed instead, but she won’t be in our bed for a while. I’m hoping that Abby will be out of our bed before Lily starts making her way between my husband and me. Because our queen-sized bed does not allow for a family bed. At least if my husband or I want to actually sleep!

We still have 5 weeks or so left for the other stuff. For cleaning the bassinet, washing Abby’s newborn hand-me-downs, and prepping diapers. For packing for the hospital and nesting. For preparing freezer meals, too. To finish making room for Lily. Well, at least in the rest of the house.

 

What was the most challenging part of adding another child to your family? If you have only one child, what was the most challenging part of preparing for his or her arrival?

 

 

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Breastfeeding Blog Hop: Still Worth It

Breastfeeeding Blog Hop

This post is part of the weekly breastfeeding blog hop, hosted by The Slacker Mom, and co-hosted by The Gnome’s Mom and Happiness Redefined. This week’s topic is “Check-In.”

We are half-way through the year, so it’s a great time to see how everyone is doing with any goals they set for breastfeeding in 2012. Jeniffer and I alternate posts each week, so she is the one who wrote a goal post. You can read it here. Although I didn’t write a post, I did have goals… to make it through Nehemiah’s first birthday at the end of January, and after that to keep going as long as it was still working for both of us.

I’m happy to say we are still nursing! This is my fourth time nursing a toddler. It includes all the joys and challenges of nursing a toddler. Instant tantrum calming? Win! But can you say gymnurstics?

As expected, the questions have started about when I plan on weaning. This time they seem to be even more frequent! It seems most people can’t fathom the fact that I’ve been dairy-free for 15 months, purely for another person’s benefit. I know that when I first went dairy-free due to Nehemiah’s dairy intolerance, I got a lot of comments from people about how I would probably “wean a lot earlier!” It seemed like an odd of way of thinking then, and it still does.

Now, don’t get me wrong. Being dairy-free is hard. It’s really hard. Over a year later, I still miss pizza, Chick-fil-A, flavored coffee creamer, cheese and regular chocolate. I miss being able to go into a restaurant and order whatever looks good. I miss feeling normal! So, I don’t judge moms who decide this isn’t for them. But I also don’t think I’m some sort of super mom or crazy to keep going.

When I look at Nehemiah nursing, or think about the way it comforts and calms him, I can’t imagine taking that away from him just so I can have the things listed above. He already misses out on a lot due to his food intolerances. He hears a lot of, “No, you can’t have that, it will make you sick!” I wonder how much of this he can understand, and what it does to his little heart to see others being fed stuff while he is being told no. I try to shield him from that as much as possible, but it’s the reality of life in a world full of dairy, especially with his cousin Abby being so close in age and not dairy intolerant.

As much as I would like to, I can’t make the world dairy-free or make his little system able to handle dairy. But I can breastfeed him. I can choose to give him the same thing I gave his siblings. I can choose not to take away his favorite food just so I can have mine.

He’s still worth it.


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Worship Wednesday: Strengthened

The last few weeks have been very discouraging for me. I have been feeling down overall, and that has bled over into all of my relationships, including my relationship with God. Part of it is probably pregnancy fatigue and hormones, and being tired all the time doesn’t help much. Neither does worrying, which I’ve been doing quite often.

I’ve been reading the book of Psalm in the mornings. There have been several verses in these chapters that have encouraged me in the past few weeks, and today’s reading held another gem. “Be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart, all you who hope in the Lord” (Psalm 31:24).

I forget to have courage. I focus on the worries, on the problems, and I forget that the God who created the Universe and who is in control of the earth is the One who also loves me and cares for me. I forget that He owns the cattle on a thousand hills, that He is ultimately in control. I worry because I can’t see the end of this instead of trusting Him. In my own logic, it never works out. Thankfully, I’ve seen first hand that my own logic isn’t the end of the story. That He can and will work it all out, even when I can’t see how.

He has definitely strengthened my heart during the past few weeks. Slowly but surely, I’m becoming a little less discouraged. It may take a little longer before I’m fully out of my funk, I know that. But I’m thankful for the promises that He gives. For the hope that comes with knowing that I’m not alone on this path.

 What promise has kept you afloat lately?

 

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