Worship Wednesday: Continuing in Self-Control

Sometimes I get carried away with everything under the sun…except for my family. My daughter becomes a nuisance because she wants my attention, and I forget to delight in her and in who she is becoming. My husband and I have numerous arguments because, well, he ends up doing most of the housework out of frustration while I spend more time on the Internet or my phone. I’m not a very good housewife or mom most days.

So when I read and re-read 1 Timothy, chapters 4-6, it wasn’t surprising that 5:14-15 stood out to me:

“Therefore I desire that the younger widows marry, bear children, manage the house, give no opportunity for the adversary to speak reproachfully. For some have already turned aside after Satan.”

While these verses are speaking about how to handle widows in the church, I believe that we women fall into these traps whether we are married or widows. So many things can take our focus off of Christ, off of our family, and when they do, we give the adversary an opportunity to speak reproachfully. We give Satan reasons to speak against us. I’m not sure about you, but I have enough negative self-talk to deal with without giving Satan reasons to speak against me.

And how do we keep Satan from speaking reproachfully against us? There’s another passage earlier in 1 Timothy that explains how:

“Nevertheless, she will be saved in childbearing if they continue in faith, love, and holiness, with self-control.” 1 Timothy 2:15

Continuing in faith, love, and holiness keeps us from reproach. It’s easy for me to continue in those…but when I lack the self-control, when I forget to first minister to my family and to manage my house, it’s as if everything that I excel in flies out the window. Am I really faithful if I lack the discipline to constantly seek the Lord? Am I really loving if I don’t show it to my family in my actions? Am I really holy or set apart if I’m participating in the same activities as everyone else around me? Self-control plays a crucial part in making sure my heart lines up with my actions. Too often, I find myself lacking the self-control necessary for real spiritual growth.

And this lack of self-control, it bleeds over into every aspect of my life. From my daily walk with God to how clean my house stays. Satan often has his opportunity to speak against me, and he has reason to! I am thankful, though, that the Holy Spirit reminds me that God is still working in my life, that both Jesus and the Spirit intercede for me when I can’t find the words, and that today is not the end. He is ever changing me from glory to glory…


About Jeniffer

Jeniffer is planning to homeschool her children and is enjoying teachable moments with her 1-year-old and 1-month-old daughter. She loves sharing about her parenting journey, from breastfeeding to cloth diapering to pregnancy and beyond!

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  • http://www.momsmustardseeds.com Rebecca

    So true! We can become distracted and my husband and I were just talking about that the other day….all of the distractions we (Americans) have…that take our focus off of God …our family and our friends! Thank you for this sweet reminder!

    • Jeniffer

      Rebecca, that’s so true! There’s so much out there, from TV to Internet to even the marketing used in grocery stores! We are so entertainment driven that finding our own entertainment has become a chore and actually doing chores or spending time with family and friends, much less God, becomes the very last on our list when it should be the first.

  • http://jenniferajanes.com Jennifer

    I struggle with self-control and being distracted too. I find if I have God at the top of my priority list, the rest falls into place. I just have to make sure He stays first on my list!

    • Jeniffer

      And that is the hardest part for me. Especially since I do better when I have time truly alone with God, and my daughter doesn’t leave me much time for that anymore!

  • Mary

    I believe this is the same for many women. I always end up doing the housework, but some things just take longer to get done, and some never get done. Sometimes I get frustrated with my children, and husband when I feel they don’t do their share. I think I need to re-evaluate my expectations and just embrace my family and learn to live, laugh, and love.. and pray!

    • Jeniffer

      Mary, I too struggle because I don’t feel my husband doesn’t do his “share.” But then neither of us does it, and it just piles up (which happens most days!) I too need to re-evaluate my expectations and enjoy my family more!

  • http://www.servingfromhome.com Lauren

    So you just smacked me right between the eyes. This is my daily struggle of self control! And it gets worse for me – it turns into anger if I am wasting time and then I blame it on my kiddos! So not good or godly. Great verses in 1 Timothy, I think I need to put those up, bind it on my forehead – literally! And give my hubby permission to remind me of it daily. Visiting from Moms Mustard Seeds!